自己過得去 Getting Through It Alone

不管客觀事實如何，重要的都是個人的主觀感受，因此不需要去問他人對自己在意的事情的看法為何？會怎麼決定？

No matter what the objective facts are, what truly matters is how we feel subjectively. That’s why there’s no need to ask others what they think about something that deeply concerns you—or how they would decide.

每個人的人生關卡都得自己渡過，什麼樣的選擇造就什麼樣的後續，都不得不自己承擔。

Every person must face and cross their own life’s thresholds. Whatever choices we make, we alone must bear their consequences.

詢問的對象即使再親近、再友好，但仍不是你，他不是你的發言人，他認為的解方不見得適合你，頂多作為一種參考。

Even if the person you ask is someone very close, someone who truly cares about you, they are still not you. They are not your spokesperson, and what they believe to be a solution may not fit your situation. At best, their advice can serve as a reference.

那麼「頂多」只能參考的狀況下，「詢問」就變得沒必要了，或許只要在事後「分享」看法也就足夠。

And if something can only serve as a reference at best, then perhaps there’s no real need to ask at all. Maybe it’s enough to simply share your thoughts afterward instead.

遇到事情時總會想問人，就像問路一樣，想問「知道的人」、「走過類似這段路的人」該怎麼辦，但很多時候都得自己走過了，才知道「原來可以這麼辦」。

When things happen, we tend to seek advice—like asking for directions. We want to ask “someone who knows,” or “someone who’s walked a similar path,” what to do. But more often than not, we only understand how to handle it after walking that path ourselves.

當下我們的選擇一定都是在當下權衡之後做出的當下認為最佳的選擇，事後來看當然可能會想到其他的選擇，但懊悔是於事無補，我們只能要求自己在每一次做決定的當下做出「心裡過得去」的選擇。

In any given moment, our decisions are made after careful weighing of circumstances, and they always reflect what we believed was the best choice at that time. Looking back later, we might think of other options, but regret changes nothing. All we can do is make sure that, at every turning point, the choice we make is one our heart can live with.

心裡過不過得去，可能是權衡時最重要的判斷點。

Whether the heart can live with it or not—that may be the most important measure of all.