一點都不重要但不知為何總記在腦子裡，然後時不時會觸發這段記憶。也不知觸發的原因為何。
但總之這段記憶是：
小學三、四年級時還和阿嬤住在舊家，舊家一樓是雜貨店，二樓是生活空間。我很常躺在藤椅上睡午覺，有一天我醒來發現阿嬤的女兒來探望她，姑姑溫柔地微笑著看著我，說我睡得好熟。我有點不好意思。
另一天，也是小學三、四年級，阿嬤的另個女兒來找她，我吃完午飯就習慣隨手用衣袖擦嘴巴（不知為何我小時候沒有用衛生紙擦嘴的習慣，都是用衣袖，然後衣袖都會被我弄得黑黑髒髒的），那個姑姑教訓我怎麼會用衣袖擦嘴巴呢。從此我便記住了不能用衣袖擦嘴巴。
但內心的感受是不好的。
小時候只要被大人念心裡都很不好受。
再有一天，應該已經上國中了，那時已經和阿嬤搬到新家了，那位教訓過我的姑姑來找阿嬤。她看著客廳的地板對我說怎麼都不打掃，好髒耶。
那是我人生第一次意識到什麼是「髒」。
這就是一小塊記憶的碎片，現在想來一點不重要，但可能當時衝擊很大所以記到了現在吧。
不管客觀事實如何，重要的都是個人的主觀感受，因此不需要去問他人對自己在意的事情的看法為何？會怎麼決定？
No matter what the objective facts are, what truly matters is how we feel subjectively. That’s why there’s no need to ask others what they think about something that deeply concerns you—or how they would decide.
每個人的人生關卡都得自己渡過，什麼樣的選擇造就什麼樣的後續，都不得不自己承擔。
Every person must face and cross their own life’s thresholds. Whatever choices we make, we alone must bear their consequences.
詢問的對象即使再親近、再友好，但仍不是你，他不是你的發言人，他認為的解方不見得適合你，頂多作為一種參考。
Even if the person you ask is someone very close, someone who truly cares about you, they are still not you. They are not your spokesperson, and what they believe to be a solution may not fit your situation. At best, their advice can serve as a reference.
那麼「頂多」只能參考的狀況下，「詢問」就變得沒必要了，或許只要在事後「分享」看法也就足夠。
And if something can only serve as a reference at best, then perhaps there’s no real need to ask at all. Maybe it’s enough to simply share your thoughts afterward instead.
遇到事情時總會想問人，就像問路一樣，想問「知道的人」、「走過類似這段路的人」該怎麼辦，但很多時候都得自己走過了，才知道「原來可以這麼辦」。
When things happen, we tend to seek advice—like asking for directions. We want to ask “someone who knows,” or “someone who’s walked a similar path,” what to do. But more often than not, we only understand how to handle it after walking that path ourselves.
當下我們的選擇一定都是在當下權衡之後做出的當下認為最佳的選擇，事後來看當然可能會想到其他的選擇，但懊悔是於事無補，我們只能要求自己在每一次做決定的當下做出「心裡過得去」的選擇。
In any given moment, our decisions are made after careful weighing of circumstances, and they always reflect what we believed was the best choice at that time. Looking back later, we might think of other options, but regret changes nothing. All we can do is make sure that, at every turning point, the choice we make is one our heart can live with.
心裡過不過得去，可能是權衡時最重要的判斷點。
Whether the heart can live with it or not—that may be the most important measure of all.
我曾經以為「大人」是和「小孩」截然不同的生物，「大人」生來就是「大人」，沒有「小孩」的階段，所以也就沒有童年。
I used to think that “adults” were entirely different beings from “children.” That adults were born as adults—without ever having gone through a childhood, and therefore had no such thing as a “childhood” at all.
第一次聽聞「大人」口述他小時候的點滴時，我非常詫異，「原來大人也有童年嗎？」、「原來大人也有小時候的階段嗎？」內心十分震撼。
The first time I heard an adult talk about their own childhood memories, I was deeply surprised.
“Adults had childhoods too?”
“So adults also went through the stage of being children?”
The thought shook me.
因為身旁的大人不怎麼述說過往，對於青少年的認知也像一片空白，我才自然而然會以為大人是這樣的生物吧。
Perhaps because the adults around me rarely spoke about their past, and their understanding of adolescence itself seemed like a blank page, I naturally came to believe that adults were simply that kind of creature.
認知到大人也是從小孩轉變而成，我對於大人便多了一分親近感，雖然我依然不明白大人為什麼這麼難以溝通。
When I realized that every adult had once been a child, I felt an unexpected sense of closeness—though I still couldn’t understand why they were so hard to talk to.
如今我也成為大人很多年了，但週遭仍有比我年長許多的大人，所以我在他們眼中也仍被當孩子對待。儘管我知道的不見得比他們少。
Now I’ve been an adult myself for many years. Yet there are still adults much older than me, and in their eyes, I’m still treated like a child—even though what I know may not necessarily be less than what they do.
大人懂的事情，小孩不會懂？
小孩懂的事情，大人裝不懂？
Do adults know things that children cannot understand?
Or do children know things that adults pretend not to understand?
在大人的世界裡生活著，久了就會忘了小孩思維的感受，現在回想，或許那些被我誤以為沒有童年的大人並不是刻意如此，而是離童年太遠了，童年已不是隨手可觸及的記憶，需要用點心，把那些已被塵埃覆蓋的過往美好的、酸苦的回憶撢一撢，才會再想起——自己也有過年幼的歲月。
Living in the world of adults for so long, one gradually forgets how it feels to think like a child. Looking back now, perhaps those adults I once thought had no childhood weren’t like that on purpose—they had simply drifted too far from it. Childhood was no longer a memory within easy reach. It takes some effort, a bit of tenderness, to dust off those old recollections—the sweet ones, the bitter ones—and remember, once again, that they, too, were once young.
工作(Job)、職業(Career)、志業(Calling)，關於社會人士的生存樣態，通常會有這三種類型的描述。
When it comes to the ways adults live and work, there are generally three types of descriptions: Job, Career, and Calling.
工作的目的僅是為了財務考量，無關乎個人的熱情與長期動機。
A job exists purely for financial reasons, with no connection to personal passion or long-term motivation.
職業則是透過工作累積的技能獲得機會擔任更高地位、取得更高財務回報。
A career involves gaining skills through work and using those skills to achieve higher positions and better financial rewards.
志業不見得與財務報酬或社會地位有正向關連，主要是與個人的價值觀、自我充實感，甚至對社會貢獻相關。
A calling isn’t necessarily tied to money or social status, but rather to one’s values, sense of fulfillment, and even contribution to society.
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記得大二在學習社會心理學時有教到「香水是為了鞏固自己和他人的邊界」的概念，所以每次聞到他人的香水味時，都像是被他人製造的結界打到。
I remember learning in my sophomore year’s social psychology class about the idea that “perfume serves to reinforce the boundaries between oneself and others.” Ever since then, whenever I catch a whiff of someone’s perfume, it feels as though I’ve been struck by a barrier they’ve created—a kind of invisible force field.
香水的氣味範圍，就是結界的範圍。
The reach of a fragrance defines the reach of that barrier.
繼續閱讀 “護體 Protective Aura"
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